Benne Brown: It’s everything you have to deal with the rest of your life.
“Experience: When I think of shame I think of being sexually abused when I was growing up.
I think about what that’s done to my life and how it’s changed everything.
It’s not just the abuse itself.
It’s everything you have to deal with the rest of your life.
It’s like you feel different from anyone else; nothing is ever normal for you.
Everything is about that.
I’m not allowed just to have a regular life.
That is the thing that made me who I am and so everything is stained by that.
That’s what shame is for me.
Emotions: Feeling labeled, dismissed, misunderstood and reduced.
Emotions might include grief, loss, frustration and anger.
Dig Deep: Have you ever been defined by an experience? Found yourself unable to get out from under a reputation or “an incident”?
Have you ever been unfairly labeled?
Have you ever had people attribute your behaviors to an identity you don’t deserve?
Have you ever fought to overcome something, only to find others less than willing to move past it?”